B2 U3 Listening

Lately I have heard about a lot of crushes, youngsters having crushes, single people having crushes and not knowing if it is love, committed people having crushes-some serious, some not so serious. What are crushes then?And what is the reason why we develop them? How different are they from love? I did ponder about these questions and these are some answers that I did obtain: A crush is also called a“Limerence”, a term coined in 1977 by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It refers to a burning desire to be with someone who you find very attractive and extremely special. I am sure anyone would have experienced a crush or something like it at least once in their lives. Of course the degree to which you experience the crush is different for different people, depending on your mental makeup. But most will agree that being around a crush does produce certain unnatural traits in one, such as stammering and stuttering for some, too many smiles for some, too much touching your hair and blushing for some (women), trying to appear at your best, etc., symptoms both behavioral and physiological. Most crushes happen during teenage years (of course they happen later as well) mostly due to the impressionable nature of the individual. Crushes cam be of 3 types: 1)Identity Crush-It is formed when one finds someone he much admires. wants to become like, and treats as a leader or model he is eager to imitate and follow. 2)Romantic Crush-It is formed when one finds someone irresistibly attractive, whom he feels excited to be around. and with whom he wants to spend a lot of time. 3)Celebrity Crush-This is an intense feeling one experiences toward a famous person(actor, singer ,etc.) and usually there is no interpersonal contact to play it out. Many romantic crushes don't last very long because once the object of the crush becomes better known. the magic of the other person soon wears off and the ideal fills away. However, this kind of crush does have one lasting value: it brings inside you a lot more awareness about yourself and prepares you better for love and relationships in future.